What is one of the first question you ask or get asked when meeting someone new?
What do you do for a living/job?
Rarely do you hear, ‘Who are you’?
What you do and the actions that you take are separate from who you are. Be careful not to judge them as the same.
You are you? You are not your job. You are not your role at home or in your relationship. Sometimes we live our home life like we are managing our work life. You are not circumstances.
You can have a “terrible” job and still show up as a terrific person.
Just because a situation is one way, you can still show up in a completely different way. If a situation is not how you would like it to be, you still get to show up as yourself. Exactly as you’d like to. The situation has no bearing on who you choose to be.
By focusing on who you are inside, that will ultimately determine what you do on the outside.
If you keep looking to what you do to define who you are, you will have a very tough time figuring that out. Instead of being mind-focused, you will be results-focused.
If being mentally strong is something you want to be, consider doing these things:
• Give up self-pity and take responsibility for your feelings and actions.
• Embrace change and focus on what’s in your control.
• Please yourself and like yourself.
• If you are going to take a risk, make it a calculated one.
• Release the past. It only lives in a memory. Let it go or tell a different story.
• Learn from your mistakes. Regret is helpful if you grow and change from it.
• Celebrate other’s successes too.
• Keep trying. If you fail, keep trying. If you fail, keep trying, if you fail, keep trying. Got it?
• Spend time alone nurturing your mind and body.
• Work for what you want. Direct your energy into to what you want not what you don’t want.
• Commit to achieving the long-term result. Refer to the blog ‘Compound Effect’.
Yours in healthy and happiness