How To Prioritise Your Life
What is most essential and calling for your attention in your life right now?
Do you have an itch that needs to be scratched but not sure where to start? Or do you feel that you don’t have “enough” time?
Often clients come to me for Life Coaching on how to achieve what they believe is the “most” important thing in their life. Then in the same breath are after balance.
It is my opinion both are not possible NOR necessary. I can hear the kickback now; I want a balanced life, though.
If the balance is what you want, this requires spreading your energy evenly over many areas of your life. If you want a new outcome, priorities will need to be in place.
Our top priorities often don’t mean that they need a lot of time. But often we give them minimal time at all.
Let’s take your health, for example; maybe this only takes up to one hour of your day. Improving your health may include a 20-minute walk, 10-minute meditation and 20-30 minutes for food prepping healthy nutritious meals. Often, we make excuses why we have not lost that extra 10 kilos and create reasons to support the stories we tell ourselves.
Maybe you have wanted to finish a university degree but keep on deferring, procrastinating or blaming a “lack of time”.
One way to get more time is by getting your priorities straight.
If weight loss is your priority, then list the top 5 things you would need to do to achieve weight loss.
1. Do food prep.
2. Do a morning walk or an activity you enjoy.
3. Increase water intake, so on, and so on.
If your priority is to complete a Uni Degree, what would your top 5 priority list be?
If improving a relationship is your priority, what would your top 5 priorities be to achieve this be?
Make sure you are spending time on the things that you want to be spending time on.
Make a list of the top priorities in your life and then prioritise them from most urgent & most important/urgent to important/not urgent to not important/not urgent.
Remember having a specific priority does not mean that this is the way life is forever.
We all have certain times in our life that our attention is required more in a particular area.
For example, setting up a business will require a lot of your attention and Netflix will have to take a back seat. Weight Loss goals will mean that your focus could be on moving more and eating less processed/fast foods. Boozy lunches are not a priority at this time.
When you are focused on your priority, say NO to everything else. This is not the time for balance.
When I work, I work. When I spend holiday time with my family, work is NOT a priority.
If you keep doing what you have always done, you will keep getting what you still got.
When you strive for balance, and everything is running smoothly, everything becomes vanilla. Who wants vanilla anyway?
Focus your attention in an unbalanced way for as long as it takes to gain the momentum required to achieve your goal.
Prioritising what is essential and channelling your energy towards it is the way to create the amazing life you are after.
Don’t strive for balance. Balance is overrated.
If it is important to you, you will make it happen. If not, you will make excuses.